Monday, March 21, 2011

Conflict & Outlets

There's a study that breaks down human personalities into four basic categories:

Lion- Visionary, practical, productive, strong-willed, independent, decisive, leader
Beaver- Analytical, self-disciplined, industrious, organized, aesthetic, sacrificing
Otter- Outgoing, responsive, warm, friendly, talkative, enthusiastic, compassionate
Golden Retriever- Calm, easy-going, dependable, quiet, objective, diplomatic, humorous

You can read more about this here:

I like to think that I'm a healthy balance of all four, but my husband says that I'm a golden retriever(Yes, I realized my husband called me a dog... moving on!:) In this study, it talks about how a golden retriever will take arguments/conflict and store it up until finally! they! explode!  And I have to agree, that's totally me.

Most days, it doesn't bother me that Robby takes his socks and shoes off by the couch.  And there. they. sit.  Most days, it doesn't bother me that toys hold Will's attention for .00023 seconds and then he's on to something new.  The other toys?  Everywhere.  My house looks like a tornado ripped through it after Will's had a really productive day.  Most days, I don't mind the post office ladies telling me that the one bill(though I've changed it a million times) still says my old address and I should change it.

But then some days... it's just too much.  I don't want to take it with a smile anymore.

But I try to anyways.  It comes in handy, actually.  When I have one of those days that I feel like I don't have the grace I should... I write.  I write my blog posts about one to two weeks in advance... And I generally write them all in one day.  Let's be honest... I have a child.  I write them all in one night when he's in bed(I just rocked Will to sleep).  Writing has been a fantastic outlet.  It just started out as a photography blog to get our name out there more turned into a therapy time.  (Not crazy... promise!)

So thanks for my husband(I love him mucho!), my son, and the post office ladies.  When I am quiet and not saying much, it's because there is usually something not-so-grace-filled in my mind and I'm trying not to say it:) It's a problem I'm working on.  Here's a secret for you: I'm so totally not perfect.  But because God shows us grace, I'm trying more and more everyday to have  more grace for those that I love the most.

Have a fabulous Monday, everyone:)

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